A friend started writing a blog and that got me reading. I know how I got to her blog, just not sure how I got to others. Some I read always, some I read once and then never return.
As time went by I wanted a place to preserve my memories and thought a blog would be perfect for the same. But I always struggled with one question. What I was writing was for me and me alone. So do I make my blog public or private? If private, I will never give the URL out to anyone. If public, well its open to the public.
Why I struggle with having a private blog? Well I guess that comes down to why blog, why not just keep a diary and why everyone who blogs actually blogs? Because when you put something down, you want to be read. I would like to be read as well. But then I know I am not one of those who believes in self propagation. So even if public will anyone ever stop by? So if no one reads a public blog why not just go private.
But the main reason why I want the blog to be private is, I guess, a factor of the industry I work for. I know how user information is stored, sold, tracked and things targeted at you. Knowing all this do I really want my life to be open for observation to all, tracked by all the search and target engines?
There are a few blogs I have blog rolled. Without permission or without the owners of the blogs knowing :(. Some of these blogs inspire me to write..some of these blogs are like reading a page out of my life..some of these blogs just make me plain smile.. I would like to somehow reach out to those people and thank them for sharing their stories, an iota of their lives with the rest of the world and making an impact.
I don’t have any such lofty goals. I just want to remember a few things, capture the happy times forever in words, so that when time starts to slowly, fray the edges of my memory I have only the happy times to fall back on.
I struggle everyday. I toggle the switch between public and private every day. Private wins for now..every day.. Asmanjas everyday..
Meandering through.. 
You know where you say on the top of your blog that life always makes more sense in hindsight? I read just that part, and I’m hooked to your blog. Just that one sentence got me thinking of so many past incidents in my life. Thank you so very much.
I wonder many times about this. Am I revealing too much about my life. What should I do? make it private when I already shared so much.. What if the girls hate what I write about them… Sigh
It is a very difficult decision to make, is it not??..I still struggle..I still toggle the switch sometimes..
Does it ever get better?
Sigh! This is written so well .. I wonder if I cud ever put in words this way! When I started, all I knew ws I ws just writing for myself. I used to visit blogs but did nt hv even a single comment on mine. But, all I knew ws I enjoyed jotting things down so that I cud turn to them some day and enjoy those times again 🙂 Glad that I went public though bcoz I found so many wonderful friends here 🙂
I am glad I went public Swaram after a couple of months of toggling the switch. I met some amazing people and made some wonderful friends.. 🙂
The search targeting and privacy things I still struggle with. But for now Public it is.
Hey…I’m relatively new to blogosphere than many people here. But what I did like in this brief span of time here is that sharing things with and expressing myself through writing is much more easier. Like you said, I did not aim nor do I aim to be a ‘popular’ blogger out here. To me all that matters is that I voice my opinion about something I want to. And yes, I’d like to make friends here ‘se more or less we interact only with people whose writing impresses or affects us,right?
Would like to read more of your stuff 🙂
Thank you for stopping by Varsh. And welcome to the world of blogging.. it’s a lot of fun..and you will make a lot of friends..
I can tell you that..since I was at the same point you are at not too long ago 🙂
Written with honesty and candour. I can understand your ‘asmanjas’ which you have so delicately described. I would say just go by your heart. Just do what your what your heart says but then if you decide going private then we’ll lose a nice blogger. Again I put you in ‘asmanjas’ 🙂
For now I am happy with being public. I have met some amazing people and read some awesome posts. 🙂
I always wanted to comment on this page, and after a long time I am finally doing it.
All the thinking that you went through as far keeping your blogging name almost anonymous was exactly the very same I had thought over before deciding my pen-name and the name for my blog. I have seen companies and employers track down minutest details of their employees (both existing as well as future),hence the idea of playing safe is indeed a wonderful one.
I have somehow felt a strange bit of connection with you Comfy at all times as far as the way you think,reason and even at times the logic you give for various things. I so many times read your posts and think, “she thinks exactly on the same frequency as me”.
I am so glad I came across you & your wonderful blog 😀 😀
Cheers!!
Thanks so much for this wonderful comment CB. I am glad to have met you and can’t be thankful for the blogworld for the same. 🙂
I don’t have any such lofty goals. I just want to remember a few things, capture the happy times forever in words, so that when time starts to slowly, fray the edges of my memory I have only the happy times to fall back on.
Loved it and can’t agree more to it !
Thanks Nu and I know you would agree 😀
Indeed Asmanjas. You have penned as if you read my mind. and even after all these years ( and precisely due to all the time spent) Private wins for me as well.
But glad that we met in this blog world comfy. Happy to be part your this e-world. 🙂
I am with you on this Misty. I am so glad to have met you in the blog world and am glad your blog in not private else I would miss out on some amazing writing 🙂
I am glad that you made your blog public..Its a wonderful blog, we would have missed a great blog if it was private..
Thank You so much for your kind words S 🙂
Comfy,I agree with you on so many counts…Its like you are speaking my mind. I blogged with my real name for so many years,but as the years went by,somewhere there was a niggling doubt that what if someone was looking something I said innocently,in a twisted way.. Finally I closed my blog.and started this one.
But,I couldn’t just keep blogging privately,God knows I tried..but its just not the same.Its like writing a diary and I missed the interaction..and connecting with so many people on various levels..:)
That being said,I am glad,you went public!!
Exactly, the blog is special because of all the interaction. I would miss out on that if I were to go private.
Thanks for reading me SM 🙂
How did i miss this one 😮 😮 …Comfyy beautifully written..M glad ur blog is public..otherwise i would have missed knowing you 🙂
I don’t know how you missed it Dido. This page was almost the very first thing I wrote on this blog. 🙂
I am glad I got to know you through the blog world. I still remember the first post of yours I ever read (Baigaani shaadi mein Abdulla deewana) and I laughed as I read it. 🙂