– Life goes on:
For others and for that matter even for you. Just because it seems to be at a standstill for you does not mean you have to get upset at other people’s smiles and laughs.
– Everyone has their own problems:
Just because their issues seem so much smaller than your’s does not mean they don’t have the right to crib about them. You were/will be on the other side of the fence someday.
– Don’t expect much:
Everyone has their way of helping. If their way of helping does not match your expectation it is your problem really, they are doing what they think is right.
– What ifs don’t help:
No matter how many times you play things in your mind and how many different scenarios you dream up, the past can’t be changed. All you end up doing in hurting some more.
– Tears are there for a reason:
Sometimes it is OK to let go and have a good cry. It eases the weight on you a little. You don’t have to be strong all the time.
– Don’t seclude yourself:
Talking to people about normal day to day things, doing normal day to day things makes the day go past with much more ease. Break your shell and talk more, do more.
– Grief makes others uncomfortable:
Besides saying sorry, we as humans are at a loss at things to say or do when faced with grief. You have always struggled with the right words and now you see others struggle with them. You felt helpless then, you feel helpless now.
– Have an ignore button:
No matter how much you don’t want it, no matter how much you don’t care for it: unasked for, seemingly well-meaning, unwanted advice keeps coming. Getting upset will get you nothing. Make your ignore button extra strong.
– Friends are a blessing:
They care, they show, they hold on and carry you through the hard times. Be a good friend in return.
– Family is the ultimate fall back:
They know you inside out. They know when to push you and when to take a step back. Their love holds you strong, not letting you fall no matter what. Reach out and hold them in turn.